A helpful hint that can only come from an outside perspective: If I hold onto things that I’m uneasy about then I unwittingly give power to negative energy in my life and then I’m desperately confused as to how to rid myself of the quicksand feeling of gloom. If I just let go of everything, and I mean everything that weighs me down, then I present myself with the quickest, most simple solution to all my inner wars. But then I want to pinch myself really hard for not seeing it before and wasting A LOT of my time being wretched and wondering how to get out of the funk.
In a real garden sometimes you plant a flower or fruit or vegetable or herb or whatever with high hopes that it will flourish and take root and gloriously spread throughout with perfect petals and luscious heavenly blooms. When it doesn’t, brutal disappointment takes over and you wonder why that plant just wouldn’t grow for you. What you’re not acknowledging is that on the back of the package, the directions for growth clearly state that the climate should be cold with little to no sun when you live on a tropical island smack dab in the middle of the equator. And you ask yourself why?
Hypothetically, that special plant is a dream or wish you wanted to cultivate and see to fruition. I see it as a big favor to let myself know that maybe some of those dreams weren’t meant for me or maybe it just wasn’t the right time (which by the way, if we all acknowledged that for some of our hopes we would feel a lot more free of worry and bitter disappointment).
Letting go of dreams that I feel strongly for and slapping myself back to reality usually leaves a sour taste in my mouth. Letting go of things for everyone is hard, and once I accept that I’m just like everyone else and I feel just like everyone else, things won’t seem so difficult as I think.
When I have an issue in my life, I get single-minded and see only the extreme lows of a situation and am left somewhat answerless. Sometimes it leaves me in a vegetative funk for weeks, and sometimes the feeling fleets after a day or two. Who knows what controls the length of these spells? Then again, maybe I control them. Maybe I say when to stop and when to start. Makes sense, right? I am the master of the controls for my own life. Then why am I so darn stubborn sometimes when it comes to pulling myself up?
The solution is and always will be simple: you choose to stay happy or to stay sad. There it is! That’s the secret!
Great. Promise next post will be a little more happy.
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