Putting people on pedestals before I know them has been a lifetime affliction for me. Maybe I’m afraid to get to know them or I’m scared that they’ll disappoint me (which let’s face it, they inevitably will). Whichever the case, in order to get to truly know someone, I would probably have to get rid of the image of the perfect life I imagine them having and accept that they are like everyone else – and like me – flawed.
Besides the fact that it pains me to leave them on this pedestal (it just reminds me of how imperfect my own life is), it’s radically unfair to put the pressure of perfection on someone. Accepting flaws is half the battle – the other half is realizing that it shouldn’t be scary to relate and to communicate with the people that appeal to you.
A big part of relieving the destructive behavior of “pedestaling” is by keeping yourself grounded. By keeping grounded and not letting your head get too far in the clouds and imagining ridiculous things, you realize that the truth of life is that it is real and perfectly imperfect – and that’s what makes it valuable.
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